For me, change seemed scary and utterly unobtainable. And, lets face it, to sit perfectly in our own little bubble of comfort- the comfort zone- is a lot more enticing. Whether that be indulging in the delight of your soft, warm duvet, or maybe even doing the exact same daily routines, going out of these specific zones are totally terrifying.
2019 has been a complete year of change, and all of these changes being positive in the long run. They often seemed too much, too much that I, at first, was much more ‘comfortable’ to live in an environment of emotional torment. This being my own home, a place I knew for years was the furthest away from relaxation and content, an environment of emotional torment. An environment of shouting, anger, sadness, anxiety- all possible negative emotions. And so, from this, followed the moving out stage. I had tried this a while before, but it seemed too far from the comfort zone that I stuck so tightly too. The sad part is, I decided to return home from this move due reasons regarding my inability to see a family that was happy- that actually spoke to one another. I know now it was a crazy reason, that I should have stayed. And as time went on, well in present day to be precise, I have officially moved. Of course, this wasn’t an easy process.
With any type of change, it is an emotional and physical struggle, but a struggle that made me realise inside that sometimes moving on, changing, escaping this ‘convenience’ is the best thing you’ll ever do in life. As cliche as it is, you do only live once!
How to get there
As I previously explained, change seems ‘unobtainable’, thus how do we obtain it exactly? A respondent to my tweet asking how my followers escape their comfort zone described the use of “baby steps and realising your limitations” so to be pushed into “a realistic direction”. I’m sure we can all relate to the possibility of pushing ourselves into a unrealistic direction, pushing ourselves too far. @Bipolar Burnout Podcast relates to this as “the vicious circle…diving in head and feet first and found things difficult, if not impossible.” This generates the question of, yes, how do we obtain this change, as well as, how do we avoid the overwhelmingness caused by this change?
I think what first must be established is the acknowledgement that change is a necessary feature to occur within your life, especially if your life consists of undesirable aspects. Next, realising that even though you may feel comfort, and this comfort rejecting emotions of anxiety and unease that may come from change, once completed a sense of liberation, and even more so, life motivation is achieved.
Now change may not be just the anxiety to do so, change may arouse emotions of guilt. Maybe you need to end a relationship with someone you care so gratefully about, but at the same time crave the selfishness of your own happier mental health. Or maybe, more simply, you need to give up on that assignment you volunteered to help out with in class, as it’s causing more stress than desired. Let me tell you this now, it’s okay to do so.
I beleive whether change is a ‘selfish’ one or one that causes the building of personal character and life experiences, its necessary and should be wanted by more people. We as a society should strive more in life to be the best and to do the best for ourselves and others. Undoubtedly, take baby steps, try to relax, but with this try to achieve.
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